The phrase “ebb and flow” is defined as a recurrent or rhythmical pattern of coming and going or decline and regrowth. It is often used to evoke a sense of calm by suggesting that lows will be followed by highs in an endless and certain course. This usage, however, belies the fact that ebbing and flowing also describes the often fierce dynamism and unpredictability of natural and emotional reality. Addressing the violence of separation, the practice of keeping memories and the invasive effects…